SL takes over FL Relationships?
I just came across the most pathetic article I think I have ever read (Ok, maybe not THE most, but it’s definately up there with them).
“The internet-based virtual world Second Life may have a serious impact on people’s real life relationships, one of Britain’s best-known scientists warned yesterday.”
Ok, so this may be a fair quote as I have heard time and time again how people who have formed relationships in SL ended relationships in FL to be with their SL lover (SL being Secondlife and FL being First life) and people meeting in SL and bringing that relationship into FL.
This is the pathetic bit:
Baroness Greenfield wondered whether people who inhabited virtual worlds would come to regard real-life sexual relationships with some queasiness.
“Could it be that in the future they will say, ‘A real relationship! Urgh, how horrible,’ ” she said. “The messiness and squalor of the real world, and the real-time element, might be offset by the more sanitised, two-dimensional reality of Second Life.
What a load of crap!
It is very much a reality that people in SL can develop real relationships and a bond can grow between them, but I don’t believe that this can suppliment a FL relationship, of course, you may not desire to be with anyone in FL because of the feelings you have developed for that special person you have met in SL, but although you are in a virtual world, this suddenly doesn’t make you less human.
As humans you still have the desire for physical intimacy, not necessarily just sex, but the abililty to touch and feel the closeness of the special person next to you. You don’t suddenly develop feelings for someone over a monitor and not desire to be with them physically. So to say the thought of a FL relationship gives you the quivers is utter crap.
It would be my guess that this person is not someone who has spent a decent amount of time in SL to have experienced firsthand the very subject she is talking about.
These people are scientists?
If they did have a bit of a clue, they would realise that real people are interacting with real people in SL and not just one avatar interacting with another. People in SL are not lost in a virtual world so much so that they have lost all sense of themselves and the world around them.
Feelings and relationships are real, whether that be on an intimiate level, or a friendship. If it were true that people would turn their noses up at FL relationships because of their SL experience, then why are people all over the world meeting up from first meeting in SL? I don’t just mean those who have developed feelings for each other, but those who are friends.
She also said:
“It scares me in one way, and fascinates me in another, in wondering where it will take people. What impact does having a false identity have on your real identity?”
People who take the time to get to know each other in SL and are genuine about themselves get to know the real identity of a person, not a fake one. I can speak from experience in this just from the ‘meet’ I had myself only last week. Meeting up in FL with friends I met in SL. We were the same together as we are in SL; the gang together. So that blows what this woman said out of the water straight away.
The article got my back up because I knew it was someone forming an opinion based on an idea rather than an experience, and in doing so, boxed everyone into that idea and made assumptions on something and got it totally wrong.
Why is SL something that has become important to those of us who use it? Because we are interacting and forming relationships with people on the same level as we do in FL, except the difference is, we are meeting people and making new friends from all over the world rather than being restricted to our own towns.
This doesn’t suddenly mean we become vegetables at our PC’s, we still have the same desires for intimacy and contact as we ever did.
For scientists who are supposed to base their opinions on research, I guess this one failed to do her homework.
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